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DON'T LET THE GHOSTERS BRING YOU DOWN

Ah Ghosting. Ghosting, if you have no idea what it means, is a modern term for the phenomenon of a guy/girl completely disappearing on you at the early stages of dating despite seeming interested. The fact that they had to make a term for this tells me it's not all that uncommon. Chances are you or someone you know has been ghosted. I sure have and let me tell ya, it is HORRIBLE. 

Here's my story - I met a guy on Tinder. He was such a lovely lad (seemingly) and we stayed up until all hours Whats App-ing each other. The conversations were great and deep and we got on so well over text. We told each other we were into each other and he was SO keen, like dying to see me in real life kinda keen. He was gorgeous so I was over the moon and so excited to meet him. 

After a week of texting, we went on a date. We went to a creperie where we got some tea and some pancakes to share. When we first met he was quiet, seemed kinda nervous. He soon came out of himself though and he was so lovely and charismatic. We sat in the creperie for 2hrs talking about everything and anything. I was so lost in the conversation I didn't notice anything going on around me or even know what time it was. It was without a doubt a great date and he seemed like he enjoyed it too. 

When it was over he walked me to the car, told me he enjoyed our chats and we parted ways.  My heart was bursting for this man. I was smitten. He was perfect and he was Gemini which is harmonious with Aquarius. This could be the one I secretly thought to myself!

I never heard from him again.

 I texted him two days later. That God damn read receipt haunts me. It's just a horrific feeling to think a guy really liked you until he met you and then got turned off. For a couple of days I felt so down about myself. I wondered what I did wrong. What is wrong with me? Do I not look as good as my pictures. Am I really boring to talk to? All of these destructive thoughts kept going around in my head and it hurt so much, it still kinda does which is ridiculous because I didn't even get to know this guy very well, we were only on one date.  I feel like I was a disappointment to him because he was so clearly excited to meet me. 

The fact that not everyone can like you is one that is really hard to face. No matter how lovely you are I guess sometimes people don't feel a spark for you, even if you do for them. I'm starting to realise that it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with me and it doesn't mean I won't find a guy who does like me. I'm trying hard not to take it personally. If I think about it for too long it drives me a bit crazy. I'm trying to stay positive and not let it hurt my self-esteem. Onwards and upwards!

Guys and gals out there, don't ghost people! Just tell them how you feel. I would much rather if this guy straight out told me he didn't want to take things any further instead of tormenting myself waiting for a reply for days on end and checking if he's online or not. I know, I know, I'm pathetic! hahaha.

Have you experienced being ghosted? it sucks right?!

Sinéad 
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