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COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS

Lately, I have found myself comparing myself to others a lot. There is nothing worse than that feeling of other people doing better than you, or being at a stage in their life where you want to be but are so far from. As unattractive as it may be it can make jealousy rage within you and I honestly believe jealousy is one of the worst emotions. It can destroy your self-esteem. This is something I hate to admit I've been really struggling. 

You see, I look at the people I grew up with doing amazingly in their careers. Moving into lovely places with their boyfriends and going on lush holidays and I feel so far behind. I'm not even sure what I want my career to be, I can't hold on to any man and I don't remember what it feels like to be on holiday. It just makes me feel so bad about myself. Like I am not good enough and also angry at myself for not achieving the things everyone else seems to have. 

I know my feelings are senseless, I've read hundreds of quotes along the lines of  'comparison is the thief of all joy' on Pinterest and they all make me feel momentarily better but I just can't seem to shake this feeling. 

I even deleted my Snapchat in a bid to stop exposing myself to other peoples lives. That seemed to be a very triggering app. But I hate how I had to do that. I don't want to cut myself off from people, I don't want to be a horrible jealous person. I try not to be, I tell everyone how happy I am for them, because I genuinely am but deep down I'm wondering why nothing is happening for me. I don't know what I will be like when my friends are getting married and having babies (my dream!) and I'm still probably single with my biological clock ticking away.

Wow what a negative post from me, but hey, I thought I would share these feelings as it kinda helps to write them down and maybe some of you guys feel the same and can empathise with me. 

Let me know in the comments if you have any suggestions on how to focus on your own life without worrying about where everyone else is at!

Sinéad
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