The Social (Media) Circus
Do you ever see or hear something and you instantly think 'I need to write a blog post about that', that's what happened here. I was scrolling through Facebook today when a video under the caption 'This is why you shouldn't take people's Facebook lives seriously' popped up. I knew I had to click in to it because I have always been very aware of how phoney and narcissistic Facebook is.
I was greeted by this video below, it is definitely worth a watch!
After watching, I sat nodding, yes! yes! someone had verbalised and portrayed my muddled up thoughts on Facebook that I couldn't really put my finger on.
When I scroll through my Facebook timeline, everyone looks like they are having an amazing time. They look great, have a fantastic social life with lots of friends, and are in loving relationships where they go to 5 star restaurants on dates. It is hard not to feel inadequate when you compare your real life to other peoples carefully constructed online life.
But this jealousy and feelings of inadequacy is completely uncalled for when I really think about it. When I take a look at my own Facebook wall it doesn't reveal anything about my life. It is full of pictures of friends and I on nights out. If someone were to look at it they would think I am a social butterfly when that is SO far from the truth!
Essentially, we all subconsciously only share our very best on Facebook, we embellish everything for social media. The most fun and charming aspects of our lives get shared whilst the shitty stuff and the boring stuff that makes up our every day grind gets left out.
All in all Facebook is at best a deformed reflection of real life and at worst a completely fictional painting of how we want people to see us.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Do you sometimes feel inadequate when you compare yourself to your Facebook friends?