Random Ramblings | Boys Rating Girls
Something happened a couple of weeks ago which at the time, didn't affect me too much. It didn't upset me or ruin my night in any way. But as time has passed I've found myself repeatedly recalling the incident, over analyzing it and trying to figure out how it is I feel about it.
Some of my college friends and I were going out for the night. There was three of us girls and three of our really good guy friends.
We started off the night with a few 'pre-drinks' in a house where two of the guys were staying. There was quite a few other people there who we didn't know. There was one other girl who lived in the house too and there was about three other guys. I'm presuming they were friends with our guy friends that live in the house.
We were all quickly introduced to each other and started our little house party. Our group of friends from college stuck together, chatting, dancing, taking selfies, being silly and having lots of fun. It really was on of the best nights out with them.
Then one of my girl friends probably thought we should talk to the other three guys and get to know them a bit. Just being polite she said "ok so lets see if I remember - you're Matt, Darren and David?" (I'm just making those names up as I don't remember!)
The guys congratulated her for remembering so well and then one of them said "and you're 4, 6 and 8" followed by the cheekiest laughs you would ever hear.
Ashamedly, my first thought was - there is no way that one of us is a 4 or even a 6. We were all dressed up really nicely and if I do say so myself we looked hot! One thing I knew for sure was that even on their bad days my two friends are at least a 7.
My next thought was - I wonder which one I am. Am I the 4, 6 or the 8? I actually felt a bit sad for a moment at the thought that there was a possibility they thought I was a 4.
Then, the next thing that crossed my mind was how these guys were complete and utter douche bags. The more I think about it the more annoyed I am with myself for my initial response. Why should I care one bit what they thought of me? I didn't know them, I wasn't attracted to any of them and as if I would need approval from people so immature and disrespectful.
I didn't think about it for very long on the night, I continued to have fun with the two girls and the three other guys who were actually my friends.
Then a couple of days later I remembered the brief exchange and it's honestly been nibbling at me ever since.
I am totally aware that guys rate girls all the time. It doesn't overly bother me because at the end of the day, no matter how chauvinist and sexist it is, it is only banter. Most of them wouldn't dream of saying it in front of, or directly to a girl because they have that bit of respect.
But apparently these guys didn't. That's what gets me the most. The sheer lack of respect for the three of us. The way they viewed us as a 'thing' that could be rated on a scale of 1 to 10 based solely on our physical appearance. Whilst we were having fun, they were sitting there judging us like we were dogs in a dog show.
Has something like this ever happened to you? What are your opinions on boys rating girls, and girls rating boys?
Do you think its OK to do it once you still show respect for the person or do you think none of it is acceptable? I would love to hear your opinions in the comments.