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10 TIPS FOR EFFECTIVE CLOTHES SHOPPING

22 Jul 2017

So y'know me, I love a bit of clothes shopping. I'm almost a bit scared to admit that I go shopping almost every weekend, now don't get me wrong, I don't necessarily buy something every weekend! haha. I do have a process that helps me make the right decisions when I'm shopping because lets face it - money doesn't grow on trees! I thought I'd create a little list of my 10 tips for effective clothes shopping - things that will help you make good decisons and not waste money. I hope you find this helpful!

SHOP WHEN YOU LOOK YOUR BEST 
It's always a good idea to go shopping when you're having a good hair day and you're not feeling bloated or sluggish. This way, when you're trying on items in the dressing room you won't be distracted by your not so pleasant reflection in the mirror and the clothes will look their best.

TAKE YOUR TIME, DON'T RUSH
Give yourself plenty of time for your shopping trips. Browse around and make sure you're getting the best of what's on offer. If you're in a rush you're more likely to pick up any old rubbish and never wear it!

TAKE A FRIEND
Sometimes it's so hard to decide whether you like something or not, we've all been there, humming and hawing in the dressing room not feeling too sure. This is where a second opinion can come in very handy.

THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU HAVE IN YOUR WARDROBE
This is a very important one in my opinion. Whenever I'm shopping I always keep in mind what I already own when I'm considering buying something. I ask myself - 'Does this suit my current style?' and 'Will this match with other items in my wardrobe?'

IS IT A SEASONAL PIECE?
When I'm buying something in summer I always consider whether or not it can be worn in winter too and how I could layer it. If it's something really expensive it definitely helps if it can be worn any time of the year so it's something to consider.

FORGET THE SIZE ON THE TAG 
Try not to get too bogged down by the number on the tag, just focus on how the clothes fit you. So what if you have to buy something 2 sizes bigger than your usual size. Sizing is all over the place anyway and they totally depend on the shop and fit of the clothes. 

THINK ABOUT THE PRICE/WEAR RATIO
This will help you see if you will be getting value for money. If you're getting jeans that cost €150 but you know you will wear them like 2 times a week then they are probably worth it. But if you're going for a top that you can probably only wear a couple of hot days in the summer and it's €40, maybe it's not quite worth it. 

DON'T GO SHOPPING WHEN YOUR EMOTIONAL
I have made this mistake before - going shopping when you're feeling a bit sad. It feels like retail therapy and you end up buying a load of crap you don't need just to make you feel a bit better. 

BUY PIECES YOU REALLY LOVE EVEN IF YOU DON'T NEED THEM RIGHT NOW
If you see a gorgeous fancy dress that you're totally in love with but you have no occasion for - buy it! chances are an occasion will come up and you won't be able to find anything you like. 

TAKE ADVANTAGE OF 2 FOR 1 OFFERS
Especially for basics. A lot of stores do offers on basic tees etc. So why not take advantage of them even if you did only want one white tee, that khaki one will no doubt come in handy at some stage.

Are you a careful shopper like me or are you someone who goes with the flow more? Let me know in the comments! Also, Is there anything else that would be helpful to consider whilst clothes shopping?

Sinéad x
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DON'T LET THE GHOSTERS BRING YOU DOWN

19 Jul 2017

Ah Ghosting. Ghosting, if you have no idea what it means, is a modern term for the phenomenon of a guy/girl completely disappearing on you at the early stages of dating despite seeming interested. The fact that they had to make a term for this tells me it's not all that uncommon. Chances are you or someone you know has been ghosted. I sure have and let me tell ya, it is HORRIBLE. 

Here's my story - I met a guy on Tinder. He was such a lovely lad (seemingly) and we stayed up until all hours Whats App-ing each other. The conversations were great and deep and we got on so well over text. We told each other we were into each other and he was SO keen, like dying to see me in real life kinda keen. He was gorgeous so I was over the moon and so excited to meet him. 

After a week of texting, we went on a date. We went to a creperie where we got some tea and some pancakes to share. When we first met he was quiet, seemed kinda nervous. He soon came out of himself though and he was so lovely and charismatic. We sat in the creperie for 2hrs talking about everything and anything. I was so lost in the conversation I didn't notice anything going on around me or even know what time it was. It was without a doubt a great date and he seemed like he enjoyed it too. 

When it was over he walked me to the car, told me he enjoyed our chats and we parted ways.  My heart was bursting for this man. I was smitten. He was perfect and he was Gemini which is harmonious with Aquarius. This could be the one I secretly thought to myself!

I never heard from him again.

 I texted him two days later. That God damn read receipt haunts me. It's just a horrific feeling to think a guy really liked you until he met you and then got turned off. For a couple of days I felt so down about myself. I wondered what I did wrong. What is wrong with me? Do I not look as good as my pictures. Am I really boring to talk to? All of these destructive thoughts kept going around in my head and it hurt so much, it still kinda does which is ridiculous because I didn't even get to know this guy very well, we were only on one date.  I feel like I was a disappointment to him because he was so clearly excited to meet me. 

The fact that not everyone can like you is one that is really hard to face. No matter how lovely you are I guess sometimes people don't feel a spark for you, even if you do for them. I'm starting to realise that it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with me and it doesn't mean I won't find a guy who does like me. I'm trying hard not to take it personally. If I think about it for too long it drives me a bit crazy. I'm trying to stay positive and not let it hurt my self-esteem. Onwards and upwards!

Guys and gals out there, don't ghost people! Just tell them how you feel. I would much rather if this guy straight out told me he didn't want to take things any further instead of tormenting myself waiting for a reply for days on end and checking if he's online or not. I know, I know, I'm pathetic! hahaha.

Have you experienced being ghosted? it sucks right?!

Sinéad 
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COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS

16 Jul 2017

Lately, I have found myself comparing myself to others a lot. There is nothing worse than that feeling of other people doing better than you, or being at a stage in their life where you want to be but are so far from. As unattractive as it may be it can make jealousy rage within you and I honestly believe jealousy is one of the worst emotions. It can destroy your self-esteem. This is something I hate to admit I've been really struggling. 

You see, I look at the people I grew up with doing amazingly in their careers. Moving into lovely places with their boyfriends and going on lush holidays and I feel so far behind. I'm not even sure what I want my career to be, I can't hold on to any man and I don't remember what it feels like to be on holiday. It just makes me feel so bad about myself. Like I am not good enough and also angry at myself for not achieving the things everyone else seems to have. 

I know my feelings are senseless, I've read hundreds of quotes along the lines of  'comparison is the thief of all joy' on Pinterest and they all make me feel momentarily better but I just can't seem to shake this feeling. 

I even deleted my Snapchat in a bid to stop exposing myself to other peoples lives. That seemed to be a very triggering app. But I hate how I had to do that. I don't want to cut myself off from people, I don't want to be a horrible jealous person. I try not to be, I tell everyone how happy I am for them, because I genuinely am but deep down I'm wondering why nothing is happening for me. I don't know what I will be like when my friends are getting married and having babies (my dream!) and I'm still probably single with my biological clock ticking away.

Wow what a negative post from me, but hey, I thought I would share these feelings as it kinda helps to write them down and maybe some of you guys feel the same and can empathise with me. 

Let me know in the comments if you have any suggestions on how to focus on your own life without worrying about where everyone else is at!

Sinéad
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WHY I STILL LOVE BLOGGING AFTER 4 YEARS

11 Jun 2017

June marks 4 years since I created 'Dreaming Again' It was 2013 and I was 20 years old. I thought it would be something fun to do, I wanted to document this new decade I had entered, here on my blog. Now here I am, almost mid-twenties and I'm still going strong. 

The blogging world has changed so much since I started. Now it seems to be all about the following, the sponsorship and actually trying to make a career out of it. I had no idea that that was even possible when I began and it's not something I've ever cared about or sought after. I was never interested in becoming a well known blogger and after four years I'm obviously no where near one. 

This began as a hobby and to this day it still is just that. Blogging is one of my favourite things in the world. I may not always be consistent, I don't have a schedule or planner, I don't have a clue how to use google anylitics and I don't really set blogging 'goals'. All of these things have become so important since I began blogging but I'm happy to keep this space as what I had intended it to be when I first started - a little escape where I can write out my thoughts, share my photography and hopefully strike up a conversation with some like-minded people.

After 4 years I love blogging as much as when I first began, there has been times when I have gone months without a post but blogging has always been on mind, something I knew I would get back to and never forget.  

I would describe myself as a very creative person and I love how blogging gives me the perfect creative outlet. I feel like all my life before blogging I have been trying different things like art, painting and photography just trying to find the best way to express myself creatively and I thing blogging is the thing for me. 

Blogging is the perfect escape from the real world. I love nothing more than scrolling through bloglovin' and diving into other peoples lives through their blogs. I love connecting with people like me, chatting on twitter and creating an Instagram I love.  

I know it's crazy but I honestly think I would be so empty without blogging. There would be something missing in my life. I am so glad I found this hobby and I hope I never stop!

So happy blog anniversary to me!!!

How long have you been blogging? Has your attitude to it changed since you first started?

Sinéad x
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I'LL BE HAPPY WHEN...

5 Jun 2017

I will be happy when I finish my exams.
I will be happy when it's summer break.
I'll be happy when school is over.
I'll be happy when I go to university.
I'll be happy when I finish uni and have some money.
I'll be happy when I get a job.
I'll be happy when I get a job I like.
I'll be happy when my shift is finished.
I'll be happy at the weekend.
I'll be happy when I get a boyfriend.
I'll be happy when we move in together.
I'll be happy when I am married.
I'll be happy when we have a baby.
I'll be happy when we have another and our family is complete.
I'll be happy when the kids get a bit older.
I'll be happy when they go to uni and we have time to ourselves.
I'll be happy when I retire.
...
I was happier when
...
For as long as I remember it has always felt that life, real life was about to begin. There would just be one obstacle in the way, a challenge that needed to be gotten through first, then I could be happy. With every obstacle I've gotten through there has always been one more thing in the way, one thing that wasn't perfect, one thing that meant I couldn't be happy right now.

Often times, when I got through that obstacle and got what I 'needed' to be happy I found myself looking back with nostalgia and missing old times despite wishing them away before. 

Lately I have come to the realization that the perfect time to be happy is right now. Life will always be full of challenges, maybe it's better to admit that to ourselves and try to be happy anyway?

I have always felt like I will not be truly happy until I find 'the one' to share my life with, then my life would really begin. But now I'm starting to realise that I shouldn't wish for that to happen as soon as possible. I should enjoy this time on my own because when I do find 'the one' (if there is such a thing) my time will never be my own again and maybe then I'll look back nostalgically at the time I was 24, single and completely free.  

I'm starting to realise that I need to stop waiting for my life to start because it's already started, this is it, all of these obstacles and challenges are my life. 

So here's to living for the present because the future isn't guaranteed. 

"There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way" is going to be my words of inspiration going forward.

What are your thoughts on this? Are you like me and always been one to feel like you can't be happy until ____.?

Sinéad x
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THE BEST FRIEND I HAVE NEVER MET

1 Jun 2017

Hey everyone! Today, I wanted to talk to you about someone very dear to me - Olivia, the best friend I have never met.

It all started way back in October 2009. I was just starting my final year of secondary school. Probably the most important academic year of my life. My Leaving Certificate exams were a mere 8 months away. And I, like a lot of 16 years olds, found the internet to be a perfect escape from the pressures of reality.
On one, I'm guessing lonely evening I randomly joined a site called 'Interpals' as the name suggests, it was a place to find pen pals from around the world. Don't let that fool you though, I feel like Olivia and I were a rare case. It was mostly just full of creepy old Turkish guys looking for your Kik (still no clue what that even is!)

Some how, through the dozens of sleazy messages from men or desperate pleads for friendship from crazy cat ladies wanting to improve their English I came across one from a girl, the same age as me from New Zealand and the winner - she seemed normal! so I replied and the rest, as they say, is history (Even though she is still a bit of a crazy cat lady too hehe)

These were my teenage years. When everyone in school had created an idea in their mind about you without even talking to you. You were judged on your popularity, who you hung out with and what other people thought of you. 

But Olivia didn't have any preconceptions of me and I had none of her. We lived a world apart (literally) we had no mutual friends, we couldn't judge each other on our mannerisms or our appearance or on things we had heard about the other. This gave us the opportunity to properly connect.

I was not afraid to be completely myself when I was talking to her and at 16 when you're sort of trying to be someone you're not, someone better, that was so freeing. 

Looking back now our friendship was pretty instant. We hit it off right away and talked about everything and anything into the wee hours of the morning, well, it was only the afternoon for her! Unlike my 'real life' friends, there was absolutely nothing I felt uncomfortable talking to her about. I knew she would never judge me. She has helped me through so many problems in my life, providing an objective eye, she has always given me amazing advice and really showed how much she cares. I don't know how I would have gotten through some things without her.

We have both changed and grown up so much since 2009 but somehow we have managed to never grow apart. We have seen each other through leaving school, going through college, many different boyfriends and friendships, getting jobs, and learning how to be adults.

Even though she is quiet possibly the furthest human away from me on this planet physically, she is the one who is always closest when I feel like a chat. For almost 8-years she's only ever been a Facebook message or Whats App away and even though we don't always talk every single day and sometimes we have gone for months without talking, I always know she is there and because of her, I never ever feel alone. 

It is true, the internet can be a scary and dangerous place but I think Olivia and I are proof that it can also be the most amazing thing. We are like minded souls on opposite sides of the planet and without the internet we would never know of the others existences. The idea of that makes me very sad because I know for a fact that these past 8 years of my life would have been far less colourful without her in it.  

Olivia, I know you're reading this - I love you and I can't wait for the day I get to squish you with hugs! <3 

On a little side not, one of the difficult things about being online friends is not being able to experience things together. So we thought one way of getting around this would be to read the same book at the same time. This way I guess we are both experiencing the same world a little bit. We had the idea of making this into a little blog series here. I would review each book and she would also contribute to my blog with her thoughts on the book. The first book we are doing is 'The Girl on The Train' I would love to know what you think of this idea! Let me know in the comments.

 Sinéad x
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