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The benefit of hindsight in love

20 Apr 2017

Today, I was clearing out my bedroom and I found a diary I had written in at the beginning of 2015. In it, I wrote about how I was still 'in love' with a guy I was briefly seeing the summer previous. Seriously guys, this literally made me laugh out loud at myself! How ridiculous. 

This sent me off on a little trip down memory lane, in particular I was thinking about my history with men. Now don't get me wrong I ain't no Taylor Swift, I could only manage to make 2 men be my boyfriend in my 24 years. But there was a couple of 'encounters' in between those relationships that I really started to think about because they were the ones that have almost taught me more going forward as a newly single girl who wants to start dating again soon-ish.

I started to think about how I behaved in these little relationships in between real relationships and guys, looking back now I honestly laugh at myself because at times I was pretty pathetic hah.

My problem is I fall 'in love' so quickly. When I really liked someone I became infatuated, I lived for their texts and dreamed of us becoming official like it would fix all of my problems. And when things would go south I would be devastated and apparently still 'In love' with them six months after they gave me the boot. 

I wore rose tinted glasses and thought those people were perfect.

But now, looking back, I can see that they were not. I can see all of their flaws and traits I wouldn't like and I can finally see why they weren't right for me. So who care's if they hurt me or just ghosted on me whilst I was 'in love' with them. Because really I wasn't, the times love really developed were the times the person didn't cause so much obsession and worry in the dating stages.

I have no regrets though, because now I know how to approach dating going forward. I know not to push things, if it is meant to be it will progress naturally. I know when to let go and move on and I here-by promise myself I will never hold on to a 'love' for some douche-bag I was seeing for two months six months prior!

Sinéad
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Spring Wishlist | Pink Long Dresses

17 Apr 2017

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Hey Guys! So one of my favorite clothing websites Zaful has got in touch with me asking to create a Spring fashion wish list using products from their site. This season I am all about the dresses and Zaful have some gorgeous pink long dresses and floral wrap dresses which have really made me excited for the summer and some warmer weather.

It's funny because I've never usually been much of a dress  wearer but this year, as the evenings are getting longer and the Summer is quickly rolling in, I find myself browsing the dresses section of most websites. I'm really picturing myself in blush pink dresses with some brown sandals and a sun hat on my holidays this year and I am loving the selection Zaful have to choose from. They're all so feminine, soft with a strong summer festival vibe.

One of my absolute favourites is this loose printed dress. I adore the embroidery trend that's been huge these past few months and absolutely love the floral details on the shoulders of this piece. This is so girly and cute and I feel like it could be dressed up with a pair of heels or dressed down with a belt and some boots. You could even wear it in Autumn with some tights since it has long sleeves!

Another one of my favourites in the 'Pink long dresses' section is this stunning off the shoulder floral maxi dress This is quite a different vibe to the first as it is a real beach dress but I think it would be absolutely gorgeous for a sun holiday. I love the peachy colour, the pattern and the fact it's off the shoulder. Such a pretty flowy piece which has quite a boho vibe which I love!

If you're a lover of all things floral like me you will love their selection of floral wrap dresses. There's something about a wrap dress that I find so effortlessly pretty and sophisticated. I kind of wish I had a wedding or something coming up because I feel like they are perfect for such an occasion but I guess you could wear them more casually too, even just for a trip to the beach with a sun hat! you could even wear your bikini underneath.

Zaful has such an amazing selection of wrap dresses but the floral print wrap maxi dress is a show stopper to me. Like, damn...all I need is that models tan and I could be killing it this summer, oh and for the sun to make an appearance, that would help too (let's face it that might not happen here in Ireland!) Seriously though, I am obsessed with that gorgeous pink floral print against the white, it's just so class and summery.

If your not such a big fan of pink maybe this navy floral v-neck maxi dress is more up your street. This one is a little more risque as the slit is further up and the dark colour makes it a little sexier than the white one. I could definitely see myself wearing this one on a night out on the the town during the summer months. Once again Zaful haven't failed with another gorgeous pattern, them lilac colours are just FAB!

Browsing through Zaful's dresses has made me fall in love with floral, maxis and wrap dresses. I'm definitely going to try to work up the confident to step outside my comfort zone and wear something similar this Spring/Summer. Who says you need to be tall for long dresses?!

 If you haven't checked out Zaful before you definitely should. It's got an amazing selection of all kinds of clothing and accessories at really affordable prices and shipping is free on orders over $30! Check out their social media for updates - Instagram, Twitter & Facebook.

Sinéad x
 *this is a sponsored post which has been compensated*


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I'm back | I've been struggling with life

2 Apr 2017

Hello everyone! Remember me? I can't believe I haven't written a blog post since the beginning of February. Truth being told I simply haven't felt inspired to. If I'm honest I haven't been feeling too inspired in many aspects of my life over the past couple of months. Life has been pretty tough for me since we last spoke.

One thing that has been a bit shitty is that my boyfriend and I broke up at the end of January. No regrets, I know it's the right decision for me and that he isn't the one, I deserve a lot better. But knowing all this makes the fact that I still feel sad about it now, in April, even worse. I just can't seem to shift the feeling of being let down. Every day I'm seeing friends glorious relationships online and wondering why my boyfriend couldn't have treated me the way theirs treat them. It makes me wonder what is wrong with me and why wasn't I deserving of being loved that way. 

Being single also has me feeling so lonely these past few months. I'm someone who loves being in a relationship. I enjoy having that one companion to confide in, do things and go places with. I hate not having 'a person'. The past couple of weeks I've been jumping on Tinder trying to find someone to fill that emptiness. I know it's not the best idea and that I should try to be happy on my own, and that I don't need a man blah blah blah. I'm pretty angry with myself for feeling like I need a man to be happy but you can't change the way you feel! 

As if my pathetic love life wasn't enough my work life has been in the dumps too. I'm not doing what I went to university for and so I feel like a failure and like I wasted time studying. I hate talking about this because I always try to stay positive and just be glad I have a job but if I'm to be brutally honest I really don't enjoy my job. It's not that it's too hard or the people I work with aren't mostly lovely. The problem is that it tires me out so much. I have no energy what so ever after 9 hours in work. This sucks because it means I don't have the energy to do anything I enjoy when I come home. I just get up, go to work, come home and plonk on the sofa until bed time. This is the reason I haven't been blogging, I just have nothing left in me after work. It stresses me out and fatigues me so much. 

Not doing anything but working and sleeping has me feeling so empty and unfulfilled. Most days I don't have the energy to do the things I love like going for a walk, taking photos, painting or blogging and hence I don't feel like me. I just feel like a robot. 

Last Thursday in work I felt so exhausted and stressed out by the end of the day that I had a panic attack and couldn't stop crying I had to go home an hour early. The only time I feel relaxed and like 'me' is at the weekend. I got some WellWoman supplements today and I'm hoping they will help me out with my energy problem because I really don't know what to do. 

I'm just so scared and anxious at the moment about my future because I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing with my life or where it is going. 

I'm sorry for the extremely moany post, a terrible re-introduction to blogging I know but writting is my therapy and this has helped clear my thoughts for me a little bit. 

If you have any advice for me I would really appreciate it! if you don't, maybe just let me know that I'm not the only one who is struggling with life, I think I need that reminder. 

Hopefully I sort my health and energy out and I feel motivated to blog a little more because blogging really is something I love and miss in my life. And I miss chatting to you guys!
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Ways to show your love

8 Feb 2017

In my last post I talked about the importance of appreciating and celebrating love and I encouraged you all to do just that this month. I also spurred you on to put in a little extra effort into showing your loved ones your feelings this month. So in this post I thought I would share some simple ways to show your love without having to make too grand of a gesture. Remember, I'm not focusing solely on romantic love, I'm thinking about all kinds off love!

Engage in activities they like

Even if you absolutely hate the activities. Be selfless and think about their enjoyment. Some personal examples of this for me would be going to watch soccer games with my boyfiend. I find watching paint dry more exciting but he is a Man U super fan and when he wants to go to the pub to watch a match I oblige because I know how happy it makes him, and that makes me happy. Another example is going to Bingo with my mother, I find this even more of a snooze fest than soccer but when my auntie can't go with her, I provide her the company because I know how much she enjoys it.

Be present with them

I don't know about you but I am terrible for being in another world when I am with people, that world usually being Instagram! So I am trying really hard to put my phone down, or not bring it with me when I'm going to visit my sister and her family. I want to be there to play with my nieces and nephew, to talk to, and to listen, properly listen.

Surprise them

Most people love surprises, so why not do something nice for them? This can be anything from cooking them their favourite food. Buying them something thoughtful or even just bringing home their favourite magazine from the shop. It's the little things that really show people you love them. 

Do chores for them

Every now and again, do things for them that they hate doing. Sometimes when I'm at my boyfriends house I clean the kitchen because it isn't his favourite job, also because I can't bear to see it get any grosser sometimes ha! Help your mum with the ironing, or cut the grass for your dad. Just doing little things when you can shows them you care.

Be generous with compliments

It is so easy to get in to a habit of complaining about irritating things your loved ones do or point out their flaws every now and again. We often forget to give them compliments, presuming they already know. Well, they don't! Tell your friend  just how much you love their new haircut, thank your mum for being so caring and tell your boyfriend how proud of him you are. 

So they are just 5 simple ways to show your love. 5 things I am definitely trying to do more. There are of course a million other ways to show your love and I would love to hear your favourite ways in the comments section below. Sending love to you!


 Sinéad
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Celebrate Love in February

5 Feb 2017

Happy February everyone! So it is officially the month of 'love', when the card company's make a mint and we either feel the pressure to show our significant other how much we love them or feel kinda shitty for being single for the 3rd Valentines day in a row. There are definitely a lot of negatives to this time of year if you let it affect you but at the same time, I can't help but love it. 

In today's world there is so much hate. You can't turn on the news or even open Facebook without hearing about the hate one human has committed to another in some form. Whether it be war, abuse, or neglect, hate gets so much air time. 

So why not take this one month of the year to focus on love? I'm not talking solely about love for a partner, which V-day seems to focus on. That is only one kind of love. There are SO many kinds of loves to be celebrated. 

This month I challenge you to look out for love everyday. 

When you're walking down the street look at the way a mother protectively holds their child's hand as they cross the road.
Watch the way a grown man helps his elderly mother do her grocery shopping.
Notice the teenage girls in hysterics laughing with each other over silly things.
See the way lovers link their arms.
Watch how the guys order their 'too drunk friend' a taxi home on a night out.
In the park, notice the way the man embraces his Labrador when he brings him back the stick.

Look at it, take it in and let it fill you with faith in humanity.

Love is everywhere. It so often goes ignored. Rarely making the news or given much attention, love is seen as the mundane. 

I think otherwise though. To me, love is far from mundane. Love is the least mundane of all emotions. Love is like a raging fire in your heart that sets your soul alight. To me, love is what makes life worth living. Without it, their would be little meaning. Love is the only thing that has the power to fix all pain and all hate. 

So whatever you think about Valentine's day, try to celebrate love this month. Look for it around you and appreciate its beauty. Think about the people in your life you love and put a little extra effort into showing them, because as a wise man named John Lennon once said...
 "Love, love, love. All you need is love. Love is all you need"
 
Sinéad 
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I don't want to turn 24

31 Jan 2017

So the thing is it's my birthday Thursday February 2nd. I am turning 24 years old and this is the first birthday in my life that I kind of don't want to happen. 

Every other age, I was excited to turn. Of course, as it is for most people when they're young, every new age as a kid was very welcomed and I felt more and more grown up as the numbers increased. Above any age I remember, I was SO excited to turn 16. Partly because I was kind of addicted to 'My Super Sweet 16' at the time and it just seemed like the coolest age, I was a proper teenager then. 

Since then I have been more or less welcoming of every age I turned, they were all cool and still young, none of them really worried me. But this year is different because now I am suddenly entering my mid-twenties and that freaks me out SO F*CKING much. 

I look at famous and the most beautiful people like Kendall Jenner or Gigi Hadid and they are mostly all younger than me. This kind of makes me feel like I have passed my prime, that it's all down hill from here. 

Also, I feel a terrible sense of fear that I am not where I should be at this age. Seriously, I keep thinking that I should be engaged, have an amazing career and living in my own place by now. But I have none of those things... I am still living with my parents! Time is going by so fast and I fear I am going to be 30 and still where I am today. I feel so much pressure. Like I got to hurry on and figure my life out. It's pretty darn scary. 

Honestly, these pressures have been playing on my mind this week so much and I've been wishing I was 18 again so I could kind of 'start over' and get to where I 'should' be at 24. 

Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves because of a number? I'm trying to convince myself that it doesn't matter what age I am, I can still achieve everything I want to. I'm reminding myself that 24 is still young, I have time, time I plan to use more wisely going forward because as I get older I realise how quickly it flies by.

Have you ever felt this way on your birthday? Also, all the 'you're still young!' comments in the world would be very welcomed and reassuring, haha!

Sinéad x
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